How to Recover the Joy of Living?

How to change unwanted habits and limiting beliefs with (1) Walking Meditation, (2) Life Coaching and (3) TLC (tender loving care) Techniques:

Did you ever have a bad conscience without knowing why? A bad conscience for no reason is one indicator, that some old program is running in the system. Just not being able to totally relax. Wanting to fix everything, before allowing to take a break. Never feeling “good” or “prepared” enough.

How do you detect such a program, delete or overwrite it? It can be easy with mindfulness. Mindfulness sounds like a hip thing to do, but it actually means nothing super-sophisticated: simply being aware of what is going on, staying present (versus going all over the place in the mind) and accepting it. Simple. And yet it takes training, since most of us in the Western World haven’t been taught that kind of habits. 

Technically, it seems to work that way: a certain belief has created a neuronal chain reaction in the brain over years and years – the program – and now it is about creating a new neuronal pathway.

There is a great book by Dr. Joe Dispenza called “Leaving the Habit of Being Yourself” on this topic.

But is it enough to just talk yourself into something “positive”? “I can do that. I am good enough. I am brave. I am fearless.” etc.? NO!

Louise Hay has become very famous with her positive affirmations and created a huge publishing enterprise publishing this kind of self-help books: How to change your mind and your life. And still, reading is not enough. It takes a (1) personal meditation ritual, (2) ideally a coach or mentor to guide you from unconscious habits towards Self-empowerment and towards and attitude of (3) loving your Self first – before you act in any direction. Everything is trainable, doable, learnable with moderation and consistency.

What if you just can’t meditate?

Have you tried to meditate and just can’t concentrate. Does your mind go all over the place and you don’t even notice right away but judge yourself for not “doing it right”?
Guided meditations are great tools and Walking Meditation is a wonderful way to get into your own power – learning to listen inside, opening up your intuition and the connection to a part of you that is much bigger than your thinking mind.

Align mind and heart

To me, it all sounds great. There is no risk in experimenting with positive affirmations. For me, it actually does work, when my feelings resonate with what I am affirming. In other words, if my verbal declaration and the feeling are aligned and not controversy, then, some shift is happening in my perception of the world. 

In the way I accompany people during times of challenges and change, life coaching is not just about defining the status quo, where you find yourself right now, defining a goal where you want to be in timeframe x and defining the timetable in steps how to get there. Working with Walking Meditation as main tool to change your way of thinking and reacting to situations, it is all about training your awareness and becoming response – able. Training your capacity to be conscious about what is going on in your inner world in terms of thoughts, feelings and physical body responses as a base to then act upon in.

The next step is about accepting what is. This is absolutely necessary because otherwise you just feed all your precious energy into resisting what is, focussing on judging into good and bad, obsessively trying to defeat what you don’t want, not noticing that you put even more focus on what you actually wanted to change!

Awareness is the master tool for meditation. In recent years Mindfulness meditation have become very popular and many people who just don’t seem to be able to meditate can better deal with practicing guided mindfulness meditations.

So, once you realize that only you own your mindset and only you can be willing to adjust whatever screams to be changed responsibly, you are half way there. 

Acceptance (1) of what is plus loving yourself (3) the way you are here and now is the key to the new pathway. How to do that is described in many self-help books and yet, knowing how everything works simply doesn’t work, because the knowledge is useless unless applied! This is when you can use extra help (2) to get you on your own feed on making your path.

It is about lovingly introducing and practicing a ritual or a loving and kind routine for yourself, where you step out of your mouse wheel consciously and -instead of repeating yesterday’s thoughts and feelings like an automatized robot- train and use this awareness of yours to realize what is really going on here and now. It means freeing yourself from the prison in the mind. It means being present here and now. It means opening the door to actually change something versus fighting something old.

Yaduma Walking Meditation is a system, that is easily applicable and takes only 10 minutes a day to start out with. It can be divided into 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes in the evening. It is all about walking slowly and consciously and bringing your awareness again and again back to walking and breathing. It doesn’t matter how many times the mind wanders away. You just bring it back. This form of Walking Meditation for many people is much easier to practice than sitting in a meditation pose over a long time. And starting with only 5 or 10 minutes daily is a trick to overcome the resistance of the thinking mind to let go of controlling the very moment obsessively and allowing to relax. If you must not do more than 10 minutes, it is easier, to allow those 10 minutes for the “experiment”. Once you do this for a few days, you have practiced your meditation muscle and resistance will decrease. Automatically you will be willing and allowing to spend more time to your mind-clearing meditation and slowly slowly reach deep states of relaxation. 

Unable to meditate

You know about the tremendous benefits of meditation, and simply can’t do it?
If you suffer from thinking fast and never getting a break, you can always practice Walking Meditation. You may find it much easier. Keep it down to little time at the beginning to start training your relaxation “muscle” smoothly. Balance is key: moderation and consistency.

And remember:

It’s all about being loving and kind to yourself

That’s how your vibe will change and you impact the world around you in a loving and kind way, without need of control or manipulation.

If you have problems to concentrate, Walking Meditation is a great little tool you can always do. Even on your way to work or on the way home. 

If you can’t focus, Walking Meditation starting with only minutes can sharpen you mind, if you practice regularly in a kind way.

Walking Meditation is a great tool for people who believe they can’t meditate.

Experimenting with such tools will also have an impact on your quality of sleep. Sleeping problems can be solved with regular practice and introducing a couple more eating, drinking, exercise and digital/information detox.

If you suffer from thought patterns, habits or an inability to relax and be present, Walking Meditation is one of the easiest tools with very quick results. Sometimes it makes sense to hire a Life Coach teaching you those tools. He or she can give you tools, feedback and coaching and guide you along until you get on your own feet! Sometimes it makes sense to get on a coaching or monitoring program to help you stick to your kindness-exercise until you install that new neuronal pathway/ habit.

Some of my clients only used one or two sessions to  train their kindness and relaxation muscle. It down’t work with working hard on it. It is the opposite. It is about letting go and allowing which will help you find the strength to set your mind day by day and invest those 10 minutes daily for yourself without support. 

Let’s go! Just experiment!

Enjoy the experiment and remember: nothing to lose, everything to gain.

Much Love,


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