How to feel good about yourself !

Moody and a lot of good reasons for it????  It is obvious: we can’t control life around us. However, we are part of this picture. We can influence our surroundings by the way we respond to situations. The way we appear in the world is how we influence. The way we “vibrate” is what we communicate even without words. Thoughts, feelings, gestures, actions are felt by other co-humans. Complaining, manipulating, intimidating, ignoring, putting down, showing off, exerting pressure etc. etc. sucks energy. Sometimes our ego-thinking tries to make us believe there would be a good intention behind these negative traits. There is not much benevolence in such (unconscious?) behavior. Blaming is not a useful strategy. Becoming responsible is. Darwin’s survival of the fittest in reality meant survival of the kindest: applied kindness in community is much stronger than a bunch of selfish winner-types. Compassion over competition. We over Me.

Invest your Energy in positive change starting with yourself! We are here to evolve.

The image and the proverb of the three wise monkeys who “see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil” are often used to refer to a lack of moral responsibility on the part of people who refuse to acknowledge impropriety, looking the other way or feigning ignorance.  Ignorance maybe bliss, feigning ignorance maybe fear or cowardliness.

In Buddhist tradition, the proverb”see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil” means the tenets of the proverb are about not dwelling on evil thoughts. That is a rather self-responsible approach to feeling good about yourself.

What we were capable of  “not dwelling on evil thoughts”?  Would there be less (if any) depression, burnout, negativity, self-doubt, lack of love and addiction in this world. It is interesting to observe how such dis-eases rise in the Western as compare to the Eastern world, where mindfulness, meditation and certain rituals are part of the culture.

How to feel good about yourself:

  1. SHIFT FOCUS from what might be wrong with yourself or others to compassion with yourself and others, do not just think but practice sympathy again and again and again.
  2. DO (not think about, but do) every day at least one thing that is really good for you and/or others (5 min relaxation time in total silence, a walk in nature, a healthy meal, socialize with real people with a positive intention without gossiping, a whole day (or half a day) media-cleanse, experiment/ do something new, inspire others to do the same…)
  3. STOP ASSUMING you would know what is going on in others and what their true intentions would be.
  4. DEFINE your own intentions and principles and contemplate and write every evening a few sentences on how you lived up to your principles!

That will make a great start into the new year to feel more energetic and motivated to go for what is really important for you!

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The German readers among you may also like Monkey Mind – Mentalhygiene für mehr Freude im Alltag   a easy-read, practical self-coaching book published by GreatLife Books for people who are ready to take charge of their minds and their lives.


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